Thinking back

'The happiest people on this planet are not those who live on their own terms but are those who change their terms for their love ones'

i was reading Loon's (my bro-in-law) post about this. good post and i start to have the impression that he writes pretty well and sure do have a sense of humor.

i guess it speaks not just to him but also to me - im not married, not engaged but i am in a relationship for 2 years ++ so i deserve some points for that!

when Jonas (my boyfriend of 25 months) and i first met - we were from 2 different world. according to him, he is from the sports world while im from the geek world. (btw - just because a person takes her studies seriously it doesnt mean he/she is a geek - very mislabelled!)
Neways, he still went after me (he would say otherwise) and the rest of the story i guess u guys can guess.

along the way, where i changed my terms;

1. cooking together - being more steady, we decided to cook together. i remember our first shopping trip to ramstore was so funny. it was full of 'do u want this?', 'u choose la', 'no, u choose la', 'is it ok with u?', ' it's up to u' bla bla bla. that was just the appetizer. next, the food itself. reminder -im chinese and he is Indian. another reminder - i hated curry (but im ok with it now). we compromised a lot on the food, sometimes we cooked my lemon chicken and black pepper chicken and sometimes we cooked his beef curry and some other Indian food. i tolerate spicy food much better now and i really enjoy eating Indian food and Jonas loves chinese food too im sure!

2. i hated sports - i was one of those who stayed in class while the other ppl played about in PJK classes. but now, i try to understand and at least enjoy his passion in sports. i watched a few games with him too (one handful though) and i like Christiano Ronaldo! and i watched Jonas playing hockey once, and tried to play winning 11 (but to no avail), and basically i try to support him in his sports.

3. like any other girl, i always want to impress him - wearing Saree and Punjabi suit, learn some Tamil words, making his favourite lasagnia and sheperd's pie, cleaning his room once in a while, dressing up for our dates, watching movies he chose. sometimes i surprise myself at how far i'll go for him - it changes how i dress, how i do my hair, how i think, how i talk and the money i'm willing to spend... !!!

4. suddenly it is not just me, myself and i - when i have something to look forward to tomorrow, when his problem becomes my problem (but sometimes he is my problem), when things change from what am i going to eat, do, watch, buy to what are we going to eat or do.

5. he has faith in me - i suppose in all relationship, it makes a difference when a couple have faith in each other. when they believe in their partner's potential and aim, and encouraged them towards their goal. Jonas loves me for who i am but he always encourages me to be a better person (and many times i misunderstood that he did not accepted me for who i am). In his own ways, he thought me to appreciate life and it's gifts, treating people well, taking things one at a time and living life to the fullest. My big ego hate to admit that, but i became a better person because of my loving and patient (for real!) boyfriend.

of course many more - and btw it is just 2 years.

writing this actually bring back many lovely memories and bring me to tears too. can't blame me, it is my first day of u-know-wud.